I Hate My Job!: Need motivation or a New Job?

There are many times in our lives that our jobs may seem like they just aren’t a good fit anymore. It could be added stress, or maybe you just aren’t as motivated as you used to be. But is it just a lack of motivation, or is it time to start looking for a new job?shutterstock_1147720

There are many signs that it may be time to start looking for a new job. It is perfectly normal to experience some job dissatisfaction from time to time, however, long lasting dissatisfaction may mean something more.

One sign that it may be time to find a new job is that you are no longer feeling challenged. You may find that you are bored with what you are doing, or maybe you are feeling accomplished after completing tasks. If you can, ask for more challenging projects and tasks; if this is not a possibility, it may be time to move on.

Another sign is that the stress that you feel from your work has become unmanageable. A heavy workload and heavy responsibility outside of work can cause a stress overload, something that can make you physically sick. With a heavy stress load, you will not be performing your best in anything that you can do. To avoid this, it is important to find a good balance between responsibility and time for yourself. If you find that it is impossible to do this, it may be time to start looking for a job in which you can.shutterstock_83971024

Maybe you have been passed over for an important promotion. It is important to ask why you have been passed over. It could just simply be that someone had more qualifications or experience than you. It is important to get a straight answer. If you don’t, it could be something more than just a lack of qualifications.

Are you depressed about work when you aren’t even there? This is a big sign that it may be time to start looking for a new job. If you are depressed even thinking about work when you are not there, this may be a sign that your stress load at work is starting to take a toll on your emotional state.

Being undermined by your boss and your coworkers, or even being completely ignored by them is another sign that it may be time to look for a new job. There is a reason for these behaviours, and it creates a hostile/uncomfortable work environment. There is no reason for you to continue to let these behaviours go unchecked. It will just create more stress and make you want to be at work less.

There is a big difference in between general dissatisfaction and when it is time for you to find a new job. It is best to start looking before things get out of hand, because it can take a large toll on your personal life. It is important to live a life that you love, and do work that is fulfilling and enjoyable whenever it is possible. Enjoying where you work will help productivity and will reduce stress in your work and personal life. shutterstock_71960362

Building a Successful Relationship

Human connection and acceptance are something that we all strive for. It is part of our nature to want to have a partner, to have someone that we connect with on a deeper level than just friendship. Relationships are an important part of our socialization as human beings. However, relationships that just don’t work and leave us with a bad taste in our mouth are an almost inevitable part of dating.Basic RGBGetting past the stage of just dating to being in a committed relationship is a large step for most people. After being burnt by others, it can often times be hard to accept and reciprocate the love for someone that you are close to. You may know that you love them but it may be hard for you to show the person that you love that you are in love with them. This can be a relationship killer.

Honesty, trust, and communication are the key pieces to a healthy and successful relationship. Without one, it is like a tricycle is missing a wheel; you won’t be going anywhere any time soon because your tricycle just doesn’t work. Building trust with the person that you are seeing is a great way to open up the lines of communication and having an honest relationship.

Trust is something that is hard to earn but very easily broken. Being completely honest with the person that you care about is a great way to earn trust. This does not mean that you need to tell them every detail of your thoughts, but you do need to be honest about who you are and what you are about.

When entering into a relationship, it is important at some point to make it clear what both parties expect from the relationship. This is so that there is no confusion around things like seeing others and cheating. Unclear boundaries can lead one or both of those involved to pushing the boundaries of the relationship to a point where there is resentment for committed indiscretions.

Cheating is seen as something that is nearly impossible for any couple to recover from. There are some relationships that do fully recover, but it takes a lot of time and hard work for healing and movement forward. Healing and taking the time to talk to your partner about what has happened is essential to pulling through cheating. However, cheating is often times just swept under the rug or pushed deep inside left to fester and grow. This is a breeding ground for resentment within a relationship.shutterstock_87748405Relationships aren’t easy. They take a lot of time, work and dedication. A happy and healthy relationship is something that is possible, but it requires the above mentioned. The important thing to remember is that loving yourself comes first in a relationship. Being happy and comfortable in your own skin will attract people that are like minded. Love yourself and the rest will follow.